For A Happy Life

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First let me say — I wrote this days ago. I’ve actually been writing all the time, just not posting. It’s a lot of fun, and I can’t recommend it any higher. Except for you guys — I like when you actually write and post. So do as I say, not as I do.

Second — I love this photo. This is happiness to me.

Ok, now for the point of this, which I’ve revised enough to hopefully make my point, make me happy for the day, and teach you guys something new and interesting.

So finally before I let you go — yes I know, I wrote about this a long time ago. But I’m posting it again. Because I think it’s important. And it’s relevant. And… because I really don’t think you read it. So I will tell you how it works. So that you too, can not give a fuck. But I’ll tell it to you in the abbreviated version. But when you have time, or really what I mean, is when you make the time — go read it in full. It really is fantastic.

The Complete Guide to Not Giving a Fuck

First, 5 things to realize before you can move on.

1 – What people truly respect is when you draw the line and say “you will go no further.” They may not like this behaviour, but so what? These are people don’t like you anyway, why should you attempt to please people who don’t care for you in the first place?

2 – Not only do most people not know that you exist, and some are judging you, but it totally does not matter even if they are. Because check this out: when people don’t like you, nothing actually happens. In fact, the more you ignore them and just go about your business, the better off you are.

3 – You know when they say “the best revenge is a life well lived”? Well, this is true, but it isn’t the whole truth. A life well lived is great, yes, but it cannot happen while you are sweating about who your detractors are and what they think. What you have to do, what you have no choice but to do, is accept it and move on.

4 — Relationships are weird. Once we’re in one (with family, a spouse, whatever), we promptly begin to take the other person for granted and move on to impressing strangers instead– say, our boss. Then, once we’ve impressed our boss, we start taking him for granted too, and so on, in an endless cycle of apathy. It’s like we always prefer to impress and charm the new than to work on what we already have. But these people– your champions– they understand your quest or your cause. They make you feel good when you’re around them, make you laugh or make you feel like you can just be yourself. They make you feel relaxed or at ease. You’ve shared things with them. They’re important. Focus on them instead.

5 — What it takes to move past anything is to simply realize that your obstacle is unimportant, and that it can be dismissed. If you dismiss the things that do not matter; if you remove those things from your mind and focus on what must be done; if you understand that your time is limited and decide to work now; only then will you be able to get to the finish line. Otherwise, you will be dissuaded into living a life you aren’t interested in.

Then, 4 steps to take towards not giving a fuck.

Accept, or deal with, awkwardness. Another kind of social awkwardness is this in-between space where you might have done something wrong or been wronged, but don’t say anything. I’ve been given a few harsh lessons in my time and come away realizing that the freedom that comes from talking about an uncomfortable truth is better than the comfort of avoiding that talk altogether. Someone told me recently that the Clintons’ method for earning respect in politics is this: if someone pushes you, push back twice as hard. This is much better than awkwardness. It’s clear, it’s not passive aggressive, and you know where you stand. Start doing this immediately.

Refuse Boundaries. Walk where you want to walk. Don’t accept false choices. Don’t let people dictate how you should live your life.

Tell The Truth. You don’t need to be an asshole, but the world does not need another conflict-avoidant, evasive person. No one wants another individual who steps in line with everyone else. The status quo is doing fine without you, so it’s up to you to call bullshit if you see it.

Begin Your New Life. Take back your self respect. Do it today– try it right now. Wear something ugly. Do something stupid. Tell someone the truth.

 

And that’s all for now. I hope you like it.